Friday, September 16, 2016

nesting

Oh, I have been nesting something fierce, let me tell you! With this fourth baby due next month, I've come to realize that getting ready for her birth is not so much about things to do for her (babies really don't need much, no matter what some people tell you), and more about getting the other kids ready. Which for us has meant freshening up a bedroom just for them. I love looking at how others make their homes and bring ordinary beauty into their spaces, but I admit I've been reluctant to share that here, as I just don't see it as my particular talent! But, I do like how this room came together. And the evolution of how the kids are growing together has been particularly comforting for me lately. Apparently, having three children (especially as close in age as ours) is considered a little nutty, and having four means we've completely gone off the deep end. Mostly I think people tend to be concerned about how the kids are provided for - Do they each get enough attention? What about the division of resources? How do we handle not having much extended family support? And on and on....And honestly, I've contemplated all these things before, too. The answer to these questions really comes down to this: I ask for the grace to live together with generous love, and I try to remain in a place of gratitude for each day I'm given to try again. And oftentimes what I see are thriving kids - they're growing up eating food we cultivated, caring for all manner of animals, playing in wide open spaces, pursuing their passions with freedom, and I don't see them as lacking in any way that really matters. Quite the opposite, actually!


But, enough of all that - back to their room! We're stuck with this terrible blue carpet and a mystery stain I can't seem to get out, but that's okay. I'm not aiming for perfection here, just better. A fresh coat of paint on the walls and trim did wonders. I installed new screens on the windows, which can now be opened without bugs finding their way in. I've kept things decidedly very simple. Just their beds and clothes.



I found each of them a sweet "new" (thrifted) pillowcase, and we hung a few special pictures that belonged to my grandmother. They each have their own knitted baby blankets, and one dresser drawer which houses their in-season clothing. The out-of-season clothes and hand-me-downs are all in the closet. I'm contemplating hanging a curtain there, maybe?



I'm anti-nightlight, as I just feel children (adults, too) sleep better without any artificial light. (There's research on this actually), but they do have a little candle on their dresser in case they need it for awhile in the beginning of the night. I'm a strong believer that kids need plenty of restful sleep for their well-being. The kids bring toys and books in throughout the day, but we aim to clear all that out before nightfall.     



The weather if shifting, and soon these beds will need some quilts! I'd love to learn how to make a grandmother's flower garden quilt for the girls' beds, and am thinking about some kind of arrow design for my little boy.

I know some may see this space as sparse, but it's been very nurturing and peaceful for all of us. The children fill it with the immaterial - little acts of love - and I'm reminded that the people in a place make it a home, not the things collected. Our littlest one gets up a few times as part of the bedtime ritual, toddling over to her brother's bed for just one more kiss and her nightly "I wuv you." The biggest sister offers room in her bed, asking if anyone needs to cuddle for a bit. When everyone's snuggled in, we make up stories until they drift off to sleep. I try to remember these things when I haven't been the best mama, or when I get those judgemental looks from others about the size of our family. And I rest in the feeling that we're doing just fine.         

13 comments:

  1. Jaime, I have found all through my life that people like things to be familiar and to remain the same. It makes them feel comfortable and that all things are knowable. Creating a larger family and walking your own path throws a spanner in there. Just do what you do because it looks to me like you know that you're doing and you're doing it well. I love that bedroom. It's fit for purpose, spacious, simple and calm. LOVE the mismatched beds and the size of them. The colour you've painted the walls is soft and pretty, and the old linens are adorable. I have to confess I didn't know you were pregnant. I remember the last baby but this one escaped me. I hope you've been well and that everything goes well for you. Rhonda xx

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  2. Its a lovely, fresh calm room. I think it looks very sweet and loved. :)

    I was about to write more but my little one needs a cuddle, go well Mama.
    xx

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  3. Oh, love the peaceful simplicity of this sweet little room!
    Next month! How very exciting!!! I sure miss this magical time!

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  4. Those little beds all lined up....absolutely the cutest!!! I love what you did. Don't worry about "other" people. I wish I could have had a dozen children. Wonderful memories are being created for your family and will go so incredibly fast. I know that everyone says that and I really didn't believe it when I was young.. but it does! God bless you and your family

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  5. This looks absolutely perfect, honestly where's Goldilocks? The little beds are so cute! More importantly the sweet careful mothering is so apparent. "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world."

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  6. This looks absolutely perfect, honestly where's Goldilocks? The little beds are so cute! More importantly the sweet careful mothering is so apparent. "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world."

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  7. You are giving your children such an enriching life out there. They are very lucky and will have such heartfelt memories in adult life. I adore their bedroom. I also believe it's better to just have a calm space for sleeping. If it was cluttered with toys it would be stressful in the evening to pack it all away and get everyone in to bed. Also I love how they are sharing a room. I think it's only natural that children share rooms with their siblings when they are little.

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  8. I made a hexagon charm quilt top when I was pregnant with my second because it was hand work and therefore quiet! When you make the corner right once, you've got it. You begin to eyeball it instead of pin it. I never pinned any of them. I just worked it in my fingertips. The cutting out with the rolling blade on a plexiglass template, however, is ABSOLUTELY necessary. Exact hexagons make a flat quilt top.
    Your idea about clean and tidy will help them for a lifetime!

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  9. My three are quite close.in age and people think we're mad, but in a weird way it's smehow easier and harder at the same time. There are.times when they all want attention or help but there are so many time when I come into a room and see them all playing together it just warms my heart.
    as for the nesting I do it in a man's way- I wreck a room monthe before hand and then get it finished just before the baby is born!

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  10. Congrats on baby #4. I have to have a nightlight (mostly because I don't open my eyes fully) since I am the one up in the middle of the night letting the ailing dog in and out, but I agree that we don't need all kinds of artificial light. C doesn't have one, just the residual light from the nightlight in the bathroom.

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  11. It is absolutely lovely, Jaime. Perfect in every way <3

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  12. The bedroom is so perfect in its simplicity! As a mama of seven, I'm well acquainted with the odd looks and comments about family size, but I'm also very well acquainted with the abundant love and laughter that comes from an "oversized" family. My third grandchild is also due next month, so soon! Enjoy this nesting time before baby comes. It's a sweet way to prepare for a new life.

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